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September 2009 
What would you like to be more clear about?
Posted on Jun 13th, 2009
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Melissa
Melissa
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for June 13, 2009:
I'd like to be more clear about the difference between doing something because it's the right thing for me to do vs. wanting gold stars and affirmation from others - on how it feels to do something just for myself because I feel the need to do it.
I'm getting much clearer but the longing to be acknowledged by others for doing something kind, thoughtful, smart etc. runs deep with me. I have always wanted to earn the gold stars.
Another thing I'm facing honestly is that there's a paradox, when I do receive accolades from others I often have a hard time accepting them with grace. I'm getting better, but I recognize that accepting kind words and appreciation in real time, in person, or on the phone, is much harder for me than receiving something in writing.
I'm getting much clearer but the longing to be acknowledged by others for doing something kind, thoughtful, smart etc. runs deep with me. I have always wanted to earn the gold stars.
Another thing I'm facing honestly is that there's a paradox, when I do receive accolades from others I often have a hard time accepting them with grace. I'm getting better, but I recognize that accepting kind words and appreciation in real time, in person, or on the phone, is much harder for me than receiving something in writing.
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