What's Your Romance-ability?

These days I'm pondering not only the myriad of ways we keep love out of our lives, but specifically romance, whether or not we're in a "so called" romantic relationship. I say "so called" because we all know that often we're in romantic relationships less to create romance than we are to hide from loneliness, even if we started off with the best of intentions. I am coming to believe that it's our combination fears of "not being good enough" and "loneliness" that are the double whammy of keeping romance at bay because it keeps us scrambling to settle for less. As long as we're busy, and not alone, we can't be still and figure out what we truly want to feel like in a romantic relationship and make it our true intention, nor can we allow the universe to fill us with its own mystery and magic.